How should I respond when a recently married man at work says, 'Your husband must be glad he has a pretty wife'?
He was probably trying to be nice, but STILL.
Should he be aware how HIS wife would feel by him making such a comment? If I found out that my hubby said that to another woman, I would have the same thoughts as Jesse Jackson, Sr. in reference to Barack Obama's genitalia.
I think it is time for me to bring back to work some photos of my husband. I took them home awhile back. There were to many fire alerts at the office.
What do you think?
2 days ago
I think he was inappropriate. I think he was looking for a different kind of response.
ReplyDeletePerhaps he was harmless in his compliment...but if you didn't feel complimented then it's not a compliment.
There are a lot of men who deem married women as fair game and approach them. There are a lot of married women who would be flattered and would not care about this subtle disrespectful "come-on"
Next time I would politely tell him that his comment was inappropriate.
Ah make copies of your photos and frame the copies for work and keep the originals home.
It wasn't necessarily a come-on--in the minds of a lot of men, telling a woman she's pretty is the highest form of compliment. It wouldn't occur to them that it's an insult to the woman as a functioning member of society, or that they're implicitly disparaging her mind, her spirit, and really her husband, too, by making a comment like this.
ReplyDeletewhen they gone fix that alarm system? lol how is the mouth? and happy 45th
ReplyDeletelovebabz
ReplyDeleteI am not sure what kind of response he expected. The next day, three others commented on my appearance, but were more tactful like one said...
"You look nice today. Did you do something with your hair?'
Actually I was at the hair salon the day prior and I was wearing my contacts instead of glasses.
ophelia
I told my husband and he was sort of so-so about it. He won't retaliate unless I said I felt harassed or threatened.
torrance
in your usual one liners, you did not answer the question, lol
I think he was just being nice (especially if it's who I think it is). He obviously knows you have a husband so bringing the pictures back will not necessarily deter such comments. I don't think that telling a woman she's pretty is an insult.
ReplyDeleteGirl Men... why was I at a cookout yesterday and one of my homeboys was talking about some girl's body... and I'm like your GF/baby mama is right there... and he had the nerve to say that we already had this conversation and she knows my eyes are going to wander... WHAT? I was so threw... He had the nerve to say... "Walk a day in my balls" I was dead!
ReplyDeletethe girl...
ReplyDeleteyou know who it was and maybe the pictures will make him think twice before he speaks. He's really a nice person and I do not want to hurt his feelings
eb the celeb
girl, now that is just wrong